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Twin Flames - Out Of The Struggle And Into The Second Bubble Love Phase

As Twin Flames, one of the greatest questions we ask is, how do we make it back to the high vibrations and deep love of the bubble love phase out of the power struggle? How can we stop the drama? The egoic patterns and programs from our ancestral bloodline, traumas and past relationships?

It's simple, but not easy. It's an effort on both parts and a choice. To end the push and pull dynamic you both have to find peace within and create balance in yourself before you create it together. We have to stop pushing and pulling on the other. And love what is. Not what we want. Stop trying to change each other and realize you both already are that which you both seek.

We have to stop putting force on the connection and come into allowance. As we allow the other space to be with what is and what arises we open up for the other to be given enough space to find balance in the connection. If we push, pull and put force on the connection we lose balance, It's that simple. Be willing to let go off the need to be right, let go off how you want it to be so it can be what it is meant to be.

Trust the process and your connection. Use the source creative energy and shift by moving the energy. Exercise, Breath Work and creative endeavours assist deeply.

Learn how to keep the peace and not react from an aching emotional body. Love your inner child and work on balancing your masculine and feminine energy so you can balance together as one. Twin Flames is all about the balancing act.

Once you find a balance between the inner polarities and create space you will open the connection up and feel more connected. Once you feel more connected to self and the other you start rising in vibration. Once the vibration rises you move back into the bubble love state of deep love and connection. Then it is all about maintenance and choosing love and peace over drama and turmoil. Love deeply.

This love is alchemy. It's a process and to surrender to the process we experience less friction, less pain and the connection opens up again to flow more easily, as what we resist, persist and allowance is the state that opens us back up to experience what we first felt in the initial stage of the twin flame activation with high energy,

good vibrations and the most deepest, most profound love and connection we have ever felt. The Bubble Love Phase was a pre-cursor and a little taste of what could be possible to bring down into third dimensional reality once we truly commit to the work after all. And with the right tools and understanding, harmony and the bubble love phase becomes the permanent state of union.

As the triggers and energy from the power struggle subsides due to exhaustion and clearing the time spent in turmoil and imbalance lessens more and more until you find equilibrium.

Every trigger up until now has served a purpose to clear out your old patterns, programs, belief systems and traumas from the 7 energy bodies.

The kundalini burns and boils everything up to the surface so that it can be transmuted and the lead of your consciousness made into gold.

As the two merge their energy bodies and the unified field they will eventually realize that there is only one energy at play here.

If one is expressing sadness, there is unresolved sadness in both,

if one is expressing anger, there is unresolved anger in both,

even if only one is expressing it, it is still present within the both.

To realize and acknowledge this, is the first step into healing,

to become spiritually accountable for how you co-create the union with the one energy and the two external expressions of the one internal energy. But as we tell our clients, once you see it, it starts to dissolve and we can become a witness to what we are conscious of rather than being the effect, we find causality and become the cause. It takes a great deal of spiritual maturity however to face the shadows as one and not project the shadows on to the other from unconsciousness. You have to want peace more than you want to be right, you have to want to give love more than you want to receive it, but once you give the love you wish to receive, you will find you will receive the love you give.

But you have to be able to admit the shadows within and truly commit to your spiritual work, as it is a great feature and it's always admirable to witness someone who has chosen to walk the path of heart towards spiritual accountability.

Sacred Union is a co-creation and everything that is present in the union must be addressed as one. You have to look at the problems and challenges that arises as something you will face together and not make the partner the problem. This is how relationships fail and is part of the old relationship paradigm, this is not a way to create a harmonious union. You have to be willing to see arguments not as a way to win against your partner or to be right,

but as a way to win over the challenges and do what IS right.

When your need for being right is lesser than your need for peace within the union, you will stay in peace and harmony.

This all comes down to maturity and willingness to truly love.

Try seeing your partners inner child and what they are truly saying, everything is a call for love. Are they angry, then that anger points to a fear, what are they truly afraid of?

If they are sad or frustrated it is pointing to somewhere they feel failed by love, life or both. Instead of fighting your partner,

ask them, How may I best serve you in this moment?

How can I help make this better, for you, for both of us?

Once you start facing the challenges together as one, balancing the energy together as one, you will find balance as one as well.

We are all a little damaged goods and we all have things to work on, but it is our willingness to admit to ourselves what we need to work on, that sets us apart from those who fail relationship after relationship. To truly love deeply enough to be able to make it to harmony and union back into the bubble love state of consciousness, we have to be willing to sacrifice our needs and wants and allow what it is to be what is and to allow the other to be who they are, rather than changing them into who we think they need to be for us to love them. Once we love them for who they are, you will come to find they were who you wanted them to be after all, you where just to distorted in your perception of them to see the truth of who they are. Wanting and needing only pushes what we want and need away. Sitting with what is in allowance opens up for what we want and need to come to us. Once we realize these things from a higher mind, we come to see that union flows a lot more effortlessly and the love we sought,

the love we pained for, was there, all along, hiding under our disillusioned views from an unhealed mind, body and spirit.

- Ulf Haukenes

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore. You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days. Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God. But let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of your be alone, Even as the strings of the lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

- Kahlil Gibran

From The Prophet (Knopf, 1923). This poem is in the public domain.

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